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No Conflict, They SAid

In Australia and around the world, legislation is being introduced that replaces sex with gender identity. Advocates insist that there is no conflict of interest. But governments are not collecting data on the impacts of this legislative change. We're worried about the impacts on women of men using women-only spaces, including but not limited to: changing rooms, fitting rooms, bathrooms, shelters, rape and domestic violence refuges, gyms, spas, sports, schools, accommodations, hospital wards, shortlists, prizes, quotas, political groups, prisons, clubs, events, festivals, dating apps, and language. If we can't collect data, we can at least collect stories. Please tell us how your use of women-only spaces has been impacted. All stories will be published anonymously. If you know of other women who have been impacted, please encourage them to tell their stories too.

This site is run from Australia, New Zealand members of the LGB Defence, AWW Inc. and supported by LGB Alliance.

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  • Writer: anonymous woman
    anonymous woman
  • May 5, 2021
  • 1 min read

As an indigenous person, I am appalled at the capture [around gender identity ideology]. There is nothing in our Maori history that supports this trans madness. Marae are now building gender-neutral toilets, this is tied into the funding. Maori people of standing in the community are telling children they are born in the wrong body. Colonising our whakapapa/history. Colonising our dead and our unborn. The taking of the word 'Takatapui' to include all in sundry. 'Takatapui' means intimate friend of the same sex. This word dates back to 1840. I understand this is not the same as meeting someone in the flesh, but it is still a huge conflict.


Edinburgh Rape Crisis Centre has just appointed transwoman Mridul Wadhwa to the position of Chief Executive. Wadhwa was reported in late 2020 to have no Gender Recognition Certificate; For Women Scotland opposed Wadhwa's inclusion on the Scottish National Party's all-female election shortlist.


Kellie-Jay's rage about Wadhwa's appointment (in the video below) is on point. She describes it as the "absolute obliteration of our boundaries".




  • Writer: anonymous woman
    anonymous woman
  • May 4, 2021
  • 2 min read

Years ago I dated a man who turned out to be very narcissistic and entitled. I broke up with him because over time I realized these things, and he became more rude and started asking for sexual acts I was not comfortable doing.


We live in a small Canadian town with 1 women’s shelter. I know several women who have used the home over the years. They have a confidentiality agreement, but of course when something happens that they need to talk about, there’s no stopping it.


I found out from 2 separate women that my ex-boyfriend now identies as a woman and lived in the women’s shelter for months. He made so many women uncomfortable by being loud with his deep voice, constantly talking about himself and his planned transition (he was still entirely, obviously, male), and talking about how “nowhere in town would do a bikini wax on male genitals.” One of the women said that his story didn’t sound like he even needed the women’s shelter; it sounded like he was there for the convenience of not paying rent and using their resources. There were likely other behaviours I never heard about.


Any women who complained would be called problematic and kicked out of the “women’s” shelter for transphobia. No woman could refuse to share a bedroom with him.


There was zero support from staff because they had to side with the 1 male over all the women. To do otherwise meant they would lose their job. They never asked any of the women how this impacted their experience at the shelter. Some women were worried their abusive ex-boyfriends would start identifying as women to get access to them; there was no safeguarding policy against this, and anyone using the shelter did not have to provide ID.


I, and many other women who heard about this, decided to never use our women’s shelter. It’s no longer safe for women.


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