bullied out of arts scene for rejecting AGP male

I was at one time an 'emerging new talent on the scene' who my small-town arts scene had taken notice of. I had peers and colleagues that were supportive and fun. The AGP [autogynophile] in my friendship circle became very close to me and he made himself into my mentor, but he would turn on me in the most vindictive and nearly violent way the one night I asserted my boundaries with him. He almost assaulted me before I begged him to calm down.

His suddenly hysterical response seemed way out of control for what had truly been a simple, respectful act of self-assertion by myself. I was scared and left.

He then made it his mission to destroy my once blossoming career with lies, sabotages, and threats. He also threatened to blacklist anyone for even allowing me to be included socially. As a trauma survivor (of which I had even shared with this person, so he knew), I relied heavily on my then-friendships for a sense of family. I readily forgave those who apologised to me in secret for not being able to do more because I knew how traumatic it felt to have this ex-friend turn on you, but I would become entirely psychologically destroyed, eventually.

When we were friends, I was privy to the knowledge that this friend was very open about the fact that his cross-dressing was purely sexual. He was late in losing his virginity and stole clothes from his sister. He was open about telling me about his bedroom mirror sex acts, and absolutely none of our friends ever judged him for it either, and he was so unafraid of telling everybody about it.

It was such a small act of personal boundary setting that caused his insane vendetta against me that nobody believed my side could be true. They were not satisfied until I was labelled a crazy liar, publicly humiliated and even openly abused by some in what had once been my vocational career path.

Now this man has embraced his fetish wholly under the pretence of identifying as trans. He is literally cleaning up awards and doing interviews without a care in the world. He calls himself a feminist. Receives funding support for everything and his career has utterly exploded after claiming to experience so-called gender identity disorder.

I had to undergo and pay for extensive trauma and post-traumatic stress counselling. I gave up on my dreams.

At one time i was referred to as 'promising'.

#australia #arts #artscommunity #AGP #sexualfetishism #bullying #ostracism #transactivism #malecontrol #maleretaliation #shortlistedspots #selfID

"it is almost entirely women who are leading and enabling it"

I've worked in the charitable sector for years and it's a sector almost entirely full of women workers and run by women. Used to have a strong old fashioned feminist sensibility. This was a big reason I chose to work there.

Over past 5-10 years I have seen this sector which works with the most vulnerable people totally consumed by gender ideology with no debate. Everyone is expected to introduce themselves with their pronouns, every website has to show a transactivist flag, every program or presentation meant for women has to be for "gender diverse" people too or "for anyone who identifies as a woman". (For heaven's sake, I got invited to a boring old session on building women's financial literacy which anxiously promoted itself as being for "trans and gender diverse people" too - is there not enough female poverty to be going on with?)

There seems to be an unspoken fear that doing or even saying anything that's just about women is morally wrong and makes you a wicked person ("exclusive"). Incredibly distressing seeing otherwise good charities actively pushing gender ideology at their clients, especially kids. (Check out websites of youth mental health charities some time.) And many clients too confused or unconfident to question it.

Hardest thing for me is coming to terms with the fact that however patriarchal this ideology is, here it is almost entirely women who are leading and enabling it. In my experience, mostly women from the upper management or else very ambitious (and very indoctrinated) young professional women. Lower level workers and clients just have to cop it.

#australia #charities #decisionmaking #policy #genderidentityideology #ideologicalcapture #missionariesintheworkplace #womensinhumanitytowomen #femaleErasure #freespeech

melbourne park to offer "female friendly change rooms"

"We’re upgrading Sumner Park pavilion to make it more accessible for the broader community. Plans include the construction of 4 female friendly change rooms and accessible amenities."

Back in the good old days a council may have provided male and female change facilities.

Now they are being labelled as “female friendly” change facilities.

What does that mean? Why the tricky language? The answer lies in the preamble about the changes being done to make change facilities more accessible to the broader community.

Single-sex spaces being removed and no one will notice under all the nice talk about friendliness.

#australia #melbourne #brunswickeast #sumnerpark #mixedsexchangerooms #singlesexspaces